Let’s face it, we all know the person in our lives who is in a constant state of chaos. Every time you encounter them, it is only a matter of minutes before the drama starts. The complete rundown of everything going wrong, and the list of those who wronged them. The never ending pity party of failure and distress.
You know the person(s) in your life, I know the people who fit that bill in my life. Truth be told, I try to avoid them like the plague. I cringe when I see their name popup on my caller ID, I squirm when meeting them in public. To add a little bit of humor too in person meetings, I will go out of my way to excuse myself leaving my wife or others there to listen while I move on to other things.
I just do not have time to listen as they regurgitate their life issues, over and over and over again. It grows old, we all grow weary, and if we are truly honest, often times we probably ponder the age old question, why won’t they make a change.
Here though, lies the most unfortunate truth with those people.
THEY ARE SUCCEEDING IN LIFE!
You heard me, they are truly a success in life. They have succeeded at choosing to lead a life that has something or someone to blame for the current predicament they are in. And within that context hides the lesson I think we all can embrace and apply to our own lives.
You (and I) will succeed at something in life. We may succeed by being successful, we may succeed by failing. But guess what, either way, success has occurred.
I know some awfully successful failures. No, I am not talking about those who have failed, picked themselves up and tried again achieving the success they were seeking.
Nope, the kind of success I am referring to is the person who constantly is in a state of failure in their lives. Technically speaking, they have succeeded at what they set out to do. If success is consistently doing things right to achieve an outcome - then failing all the time at everything tried is a success in and of itself.
Imagine living life being known as successful for failing.
And yet, we all know people who fall under this definition. People who allow life, or the events of their life, to dictate the path their life follows. People who use those events as the catalyst to not effect change, thereby failing in whatever they try.
Around my house, the word ‘can’t’ is equivalent to a cuss word. It is a word that I find so self-destructive as it contains within it a self-fulfilling prophecy. I tell my kids all the time, “when you say you can’t do something, you will succeed at that statement.” I can’t is the opposite of I can, and I can is the springboard that successful people use to make their lives one that effects change in those around them, and in some cases, the world around them.
Circling back to the opening salvo this week, in identifying those you know who live their life in a constant state of excuse thereby creating an environment that they continually succeed at failing, let me ask you if that is the way you want to live life?
My guess would be, “No,” I for one know that I may not always succeed at that which I try, but the success comes from trying, learning, and applying to future endeavors.
This week be intentional about surrounding yourself with people, who like you, choose to succeed in life. Be open and receptive to not only sharing your secrets to success, but listening as they shares theirs with you.
Anyone can makes excuses, choose instead to make successes.
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