It's ALL About the Cross

Yesterday we celebrated Easter.  For the Christian world, the cross and the empty tomb represent what Christ did for you and me through His suffering, death and resurrection.  For those of you that question the validity of whether or not the story of the cross is true, that Jesus Christ did in fact take on the body of a human, living amongst us a perfectly sinless life - I’m not here to argue with you, but instead perhaps offer some thoughts that might at least challenge your beliefs enough to do some research on your own.

This post actually came as a result of some thoughts I had while showering this past Friday, which also happened to be Good Friday.  I won’t go into a lot of detail other than to let you know that when I shower, I think.  I think a lot.  During the week I’ll plan out my day starting the preparation necessary for the things that are on my calendar for the day and/or week.  My wife and kids were home for the long weekend meaning my normal Friday activities would be on hold this week given my desire to spend time with them.

Going back to my thoughts though.  I got thinking about how much argument and debate there is regarding the cross, and what Jesus did there for us.  Yes - I lean to the hardcore “radical right” in thinking that every word of the Bible is in fact true - and inspired by God through man.  I believe that Jesus did in fact, come to earth as a sinless human being.  I believe that he led a sinless life but suffered humiliation, shame and torture at the hands of man leading to a death fit for a criminal.  

But here’s where my thought direction took a hard left for a minute.  Do you realize, that throughout history there have been hundreds of people claiming to be “god” inspiring people to follow them, often to disastrous ends.  I’ve been around since 1974, and in my lifetime we have seen supposed “gods” like Jim Jones who led the Peoples Temple to mass suicide.  David Koresh and his Branch Davidians for whom he led folks to believe he was their final prophet.

What about Scientology?  Its founder L Ron Hubbard started his career writing science fiction moving over to the creation of religion.  And let’s not forget Joseph Smith, founder of the Mormon Church and author of the Mormon Bible which to date, has had over 4,000 corrections, revisions and changes made - changes necessary to account for prophesy and other predictions that simply never came to be in the timing stated by the original text.

I’m not here to debate those other religions though, but to suggest to you the following.  Although throughout history there have been hundreds if not thousands of folks claiming to be “god”, why is we don’t have churches devoted to the teachings of the Jim Jones and David Koresh’s of the world?  Why is it, people aren’t setting aside days of reverence to recognize accomplishments done under those supposed “gods” watch.  Why is, a little over 2,000 years since the Cross, the Cross of Christ is still so relevant and talked about if it was a myth or fairytale?

If Jesus Christ the man, and yes - there is ample historical evidence in secular writings of the era to not only support but decisively prove that Jesus was in fact who He said he was, including but not limited to post-resurrection - was just a man like others who claim to be “gods”, why hasn’t his memory slipped into obscurity along with the rest of them.  Remember, from the beginning of time there have been “gods” amongst us, but I don’t know a single person who worships an ancient Pharaoh or the river god, and the sun or moon god.  

Nope.  Not one person, and in 44 years of being alive, I haven’t met a single person who does.  And yet each and every day all around the world people humble themselves to the one true living God and His son Jesus Christ.  That doesn’t happen with those other supposed gods, nor should it. 

Before I wrap up here, I do want to stop for a minute and state that I am not a religious scholar nor am I an expert on cults that have existed.  I, like most of you, get my information from Rabbi Google and the nightly news.  However, I know enough to know, that if Jesus Christ wasn’t real, why would He still be so relevant over 2000 years later.

The challenge is simple this week.  Do not be afraid to shake up your thought processes.  The reality is, you can write off every preceding paragraph and still take away something from this post by simply shaking up your thought processes and seeing if there is something in your thought process that can be changed or made better.  For those of you who are still digesting the previous paragraphs and would like to dive deeper into the discussion, I am ready and willing to engage in a conversation.

They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.  This exercise in shaking up your thought processes is the anti-insanity exercise.  If there is something in your life that drives you crazy, this is the week to make a change.  The effort will be worth it, and if you adopt the thinking I have regarding Jesus and the work He did on the cross, it has the potential to be life changing for both now and eternity.

I know, I’ve ran long this week - I appreciate your humoring me and sticking with me until the end.  For those of you who want to learn more, you can reach me direct at Jason@PSCoachTN.com and we can discuss further.

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Give Unto Caesar...

Go ahead, be honest.  Are you scrambling today to give unto Caesar what is Caesars?  Oh, who is Caesar you might be asking, he is the modern day tax man.  Each year on this day our taxes are due.  You know, the money you work for that is taken out of your paycheck to pay for programs, most of which you wouldn’t ever fund on your own if it weren’t for the forced extraction from your paycheck.  That is an discussion for another day, let’s deal strictly with today, and the looming deadline that is occurring tonight.

One hundred and five days ago we went from 2018 to 2019 and with that the closing of the 2018 tax year.  One hundred five days ago you knew that come April 15, 2019 your taxes would be due.  Perhaps you were owed money back so you filed early, and if so I applaud you.  Perhaps you owe over and above what was already taken, so therefore you are waiting for the last possible minute to pay, nothing wrong with that either.  

Todays lesson comes from those who don’t know if they owe or are owed, the ones that are scrambling today to get done what they’ve known needed getting done for the last one hundred and five days.  This lesson is for the procrastinators amongst us.

STOP!!!

Stop procrastinating.  Get done what you need to get done.  And “No”, I’m not just talking taxes - I’m talking about all the things in life you leave up to the last minute and then find yourself scrambling to get done.  

Planning proactively and managing your time is essential for success in life, constantly waiting until the last minute to get things done creates needless stress, worry and anxiety.  

Why put yourself through that?

Here is the challenge for this upcoming week.  First off, if you haven’t finished your taxes get them done.  If you have finished your taxes I encourage you to take a few minutes and plan out your week.  Your phone - yes, even you non-iPhone using people out there - has an amazing thing called a calendar and some form of a reminders app.  Put the technology to work for you.  If your phone alerts you every time a friend or family member posts some mindless drivel on Facebook of another social media app but doesn’t alert you to upcoming events and meetings, YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG and your priorities need to be adjusted.

Planning and anticipating upcoming items make for a less stressful life and gives you the ability to be alert to opportunities you most likely are missing right now given the fact you are always scrambling to get done what needs getting done in your life.

Make today, tax day 2019 the day you start planning proactively and with intention.  

I promise you the benefits will be worth it.  Living with intention requires planning, and that includes planning your days, weeks and months.  Now go forth and start planning out this upcoming week.  You can report back next week how you did, but until then have a great day and a great week.

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Home School Heroes

May I make a confession to you?

I was not a fan of the idea of homeschooling, in fact to be brutally honest I really a strong advocate against the notion of it.

Perhaps my opinion wasn’t wrong in that the very limited group of people I’ve got in my life who I’ve seen homeschool their kids, for the most, left the kids worse off than they were prior to starting the homeschool experience.  (For the record, I’m not naming any names or pointing any fingers here). Over my 25 years or so since leaving school myself, the friends and family that I’ve witnessed homeschool kids, in my humble opinion really did a disservice to their kids.

But here is the thing.  I was wrong.  I was wrong in a big way.  I was wrong in so strong a way that I had to write about it, but more importantly than just write about it, I want to talk about the events that changed my opinion and within that change draw a lesson that I learned and one that I think might be applicable for you as well.

Last year one of my companies was a vendor at a homeschool Show called Teach Them Diligently in Nashville, TN.  We exhibited our introduction to electronics curriculum called The Basics v2.0 and Digital Theory.  These textbooks are designed to be used as either a teacher, parent or self led course designed to introduce the user to electronic principles and the different components that make up every device we use on a daily basis.

During the show, I saw first hand thousands of parents who had made the decision to invest in their kids lives in a way I’d never seen before.  The engagement between parent and child was amazing, and the kids themselves were amazing.  Remember, I started this by stating that I was never a fan of homeschooling, part of that being is I’ve seen kids end up not being able to socialize and communicate in the real world given the isolation that could occur when done wrong.

That wasn’t on display at this show, rather family after family that I interacted with impressed me not only with the level of dedication and commitment that had been made to their kids, but the sacrifices the parents were making so that they could homeschool their kids.  I remember talking to one of the parents (and if you are reading this you know who you are!) asking her how long each day she worked with her 2 boys.  Her response was awesome stating that school began when the boys woke up each morning and didn’t end until bed time.  She told me that aside from the curriculum she used, she saw every opportunity she could throughout the course of the day as a means to teach and instill life skills into her sons.

To say I was impressed would be an understatement.  Seeing the selfless sacrifice thousands of parents were making, including in many cases the show itself being the family vacation for the year, I knew that there was a different side to the home school community drastically different from what I knew and assumed.

There are 2 takeaways that I’d like to leave you with this week.

Sacrifice is a good thing.  

I saw it first hand with the parents who chose their kids over many other things life has to offer.  That doesn’t mean the rest of us are bad parents, but in many cases a second income to a household isn’t an option given the parents desire to be actively engaged in their kids life.  My first challenge to you this week is to actively seek out an area in life that you can sacrifice something with the intent of enriching the life of someone else.  

 Don’t be afraid to have an open mind.

I had a complete 180 degree change of heart as it relates to homeschool.  I saw a different side to something assumed to be a bad thing.  I was wrong.  I had to change my thinking, and I’m glad I did.  This week I challenge you to open up your mind to having a change of heart about something you might be wrong about.  This one is a little tougher than the 1st challenge, but keep aware, you might be surprised what might change your heart.

As for me, I’m proud to be a part of the homeschool community, not as a parent who home schools, but as a supplier of curriculum that is used in that community I feel as though I’m a part of it.  And I’m so proud of the hundreds of families I’ve been fortunate enough to meet as a result of the Teach Them Diligently shows and I’m glad that their example served as reason for me to have a change of heart and mind.

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Make Something Happen - Today!

If there is one thing I can’t stand listening to, it is someone who continually reflects back to the things in their life using the “would’ve, could’ve, should’ve” as a lament and an attempt to get pity from myself or others.

Truth is, we all have had at least one would’ve, could’ve, should’ve moment in life.  This week I want to deal with how we dealt with that and offer a suggestion moving forward.

When working with clients, one of the ideas I love to suggest is the idea of living life without regrets.  Sure, there will be things that get missed out on in life, but having a plan, sticking to it, and being unapologetic in your approach and intention is a great set of traits.  Wayne Gretsky once famously said, “You miss out on 100% of the shots you don’t take.”  When you don’t take the shot, you will miss out creating another would’ve, could’ve, should’ve moment in life.

Granted, not every shot you take ends up being a winner, but that is OK.  Life dictates that you need opportunities to learn and sometimes learning comes from taking a shot and failing.  But here is the thing, AT LEAST YOU TRIED.  You gave it an effort, you made an attempt and my guess is you probably learned a thing or two along the way.

So as we head off into a new week, and a new month.  While others around you engage in the Aprils Foolery nonsense, why not be intentional about getting something done in your life.  Reflect back on something that you regret not having tried and position yourself to give it a try. 

Think about it for a moment, what if a month from now you’ve incorporated 1, 2, maybe 3 or more items that you’ve wanted to accomplish and started actually accomplishing them.  If there is one thing I’ve learned in life about the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve mentality, it’s simply this.  When you are actively engaged in setting and achieving goals in life, there is very little time left over for remorse for the things you didn’t attempt.  Better than that, the reality is as you get engaged those items that you perhaps have shown remorse for not trying may end up being accomplished as you seek to fulfill the things in life you want to accomplish.

The challenge then is very simple.  This week - in fact why not start today - make something happen.  That’s it.  Seems simple enough, doesn’t it?  

Let’s meet up again next week and be ready to share what you accomplished.

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24 Hours

The brevity of life is something I grapple with on a constant basis.  The reality is none of us are getting younger and with each intake of air we draw closer to our final breath.  Last year my wife’s mother passed away, a heartbreaking time of life for all who knew her, loved her, and were loved by her.  The truth is, her memory will live on in our hearts and minds forever even if the warmth, love and laughter she brought into every situation is no longer with us here on earth.  The peace we enjoy is knowing that today she celebrates in Heaven with no more pain, no more sorry - only joy filled days enjoying her reward from her time here on earth.  

And although in her case, once diagnosed with cancer she in effect was on a hard clock in terms of the time she had left here on earth, the reality is, whether we want to acknowledge it or not, WE ALL are on a hard clock.  The difference being we haven’t been told what that time frame is.  But what if we actually knew?

If you knew what that timeframe was, would it change what you are planning to do today?  It reminds me of the country song that advised us to live like we were dying.  What if you knew that you only have 24 hours left on this earth.

This is a difficult concept to wrap your mind around, statistically you probably won’t die today so perhaps the idea is foreign to you.  I would argue to the contrary though, why don’t you live every day as if it was your last day.  The fact is even if this was your last day, the ability to take the dream vacation, or visit Disney World, or that thing you’ve been waiting a lifetime to do really probably couldn’t be pulled together in 24 hours.

So that would limit you to things in your immediate sphere of geographical location and be inclusive of the friends or family you could get to within a few hours.  The who, what, where, when and how of your final hours would be for you to decide and dictate.

And yet the who, what, where, when and how of your life each and every day is in fact controlled by and dictated by you.  You are the master of those decisions.  You are the one who could effect change to those circumstances.  You are the one that decides if your life stays stagnant or if real meaningful change takes place.

As my brother in law and I drove around town in preparation for the funeral he commented to me on how much he hated his job.  This weeks “Monday Morning Minute” is the conversation I had with him.  I told him if he woke up everyday thinking that that day was his last, most certainly he’d make much different decisions than those he is currently living in his life.

And if that advice is good for him, I promise you it is as good and as relevant for me and you as well.  So as you get ready to tackle today, why not spend a few minutes being intentional about living your life as if it was the last day you had here on earth.

I think you will be surprised at the outcome at the end of the day - so surprised in fact that perhaps you’ll embrace the same thought and idea tomorrow - and live today as if it was your last day.

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The Musician

I want to tell you a story with the intent of introducing you to an idea that has always been near and dear to my heart.  The idea is pretty simple, “Act as if”, but the premise and execution behind it isn’t quite as clear cut.  The irony here is that on multiple occasions I have actually sat to write specifically about this topic unable to fully complete and develop what I want to convey with the words that I think would have the most impact.  Let’s see how I do this time.

I have a friend who is extremely talented musically.  I don’t want to under emphasize this point, this guy is talented.  His ability to sit and create music, mix music, play music, envision and capture the essences of music is beyond reproach.

I always marvel when I get a chance to sit in his office and watch him work his skill and talent, he’ll pull a track or two out of a multi-track (I’m not sure how many tracks he deals in, it seems like a lot though) recording he is working on and comment on a subtle nuance and change he made.  His mind is amazing in its ability to hear things that to the average listener they’ll never hear let alone miss, and yet to my friend he constantly amazes at the skill and talents he has and the finished product is amazing.

From time to time he will reflect back commenting on his time at a major university (whose name I won’t mention to protect identities).  When he mentions his time at that school, the impression I’ve always gotten is that he’s a graduate having completed specific studies that made him the musical genius he is.  I asked him once what his specific degree was in, and he laughed stating that he never actually graduated only going a semester or two.

The first time I heard that, my immediate response was, “well who taught you” referring to his skills both musically as well as with his ability to mix and create music.  His response is humble stating that he taught himself.

Wow!  I’m blown away by this fact.  I had 15 years of piano lessons in my youth, my parents had an overwhelming desire for me to be a concert pianist - an interest that I never had.  I went through the motions, and although to this day I can sight read a sheet of music placed in front of me, my ability to actually create music is not a skill I possess.  I love music, but creating it is not a gift I have.

Perhaps that is why I am so enthralled with the talents my friend has.  Maybe my own appreciation of music lends itself to a fuller appreciation of the job my friend does.  Or, perhaps in knowing that even with 15+ years of piano lessons I am still not a musician while his love and passion of music created not only a musician, but dare I suggest an audio engineer and producer as well.

Now here’s the thing.  When it comes to music,  my friend and his ability to “act as if” he was trained in his craft by an elite university has boded well for him and his career.  He has parlayed this ability to great success, and although he has never misrepresented his lack of a formal degree, he doesn’t make it an issue either instead offering the suggestion of an advanced degree without ever stating he has one.  He “acts as if”.  

In fairness, given his field of work there is nothing wrong with this approach and I applaud it very strongly.  If I was going in for surgery, I certainly don’t want the doctor to be using the same approach, I want the degree from the prestigious university, so maybe the “act as if” approach isn’t applicable to all walks of life.

But here is the challenge this week for me and you.  Can you look for and execute upon a couple “act as if” moments to advance yourself personally as well as professionally.  Are there some items at work that maybe you can in effect become the de facto expert on acting as if and maybe learning a little along the way?

The answer is a resounding yes if, and here is the key thing, IF you allow yourself and be open to the opportunity to “act as if”.  So as you start this week, be alert and attentive to those opportunities and when one is presented jump on it, tackle it, make it your own.  I promise you, that just like my friend, you will become the expert in the room on a particular topic or two.  And you too, will have acted as if.

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The Rose Bush

After what seems like months of rain, we finally had a sunny day yesterday - and not just sunny - warm enough to be outside in short sleeves and actually enjoy the weather.  Granted, the ground was still soaked and which each step a wet sponge like sound was returned from the ground.  But just being able to get outside and enjoy some fresh air was great.

Seeing is spring is around the corner, I intended to tackle a few jobs that I knew needed doing so I set about accomplishing a few of the items.  One of the items on my wife’s “to do” list was removing 5 large rose bushes that are in our front yard.  We planted these bushes years ago, and every year we’ve cut them back, and each year they come back bigger and fuller and more intense than the year prior.  Although I really liked the plants my wife wants them gone - so guess what - they are getting removed.  It turns out rose bushes are not easy to remove, fighting every step along the way pricking my fingers, arms and forehead in more places that I can count using just fingers and toes.

The entire time I was engaged in this project I saw a picture of something we do as individuals and from that a lesson emerged.  May I propose that our bad habits are a lot like a rose bush.  Stick with me, because this is some good stuff.  Have you ever stopped and looked at a rose?  I mean, really stop, and stare at its beauty.  It really is an intricate creation full of beauty and life.  Take a step back and look at what the rose is attached to, a strong thick branch full of thorns that really hurt when they prick you.

And the root system - strong and deep not wanting to be removed - stands as a defense to make sure the plant once established isn’t going anywhere.  May I propose our bad habits have all the same characteristics?  They (our bad habits) look really good when up close but zooming out all the thorns come to light revealing that our bad habit is in fact not a great idea at all.

Here’s a fact you can’t dispute.  You have bad habits, I have bad habits, WE ALL HAVE BAD HABITS.  Have you ever tried to stop doing a bad habit?  Have you been figuratively “pricked” by the thorns we’ve established in an attempt to justify our bad habits.  I’ve got a friend who chews tobacco, has since he was in high school.  To me, that is a gross disgusting habit, to my friend who admits the same, he uses the excuse that he enjoys it as his thorn to prevent a change.  He’s not alone, we are all guilty of using excuses as a way to justify our bad habits.

Yesterday proved to me that just like our bad habits, those rose bushes that I dug up didn’t start as 4” roots embedded deep into the ground but rather a single root 1/2” thick and about 8” long.  The longer we allowed that rose bush to survive in our yard, the more embedded it became.  The stronger its defense system grew with some thorns being over 1/2” thick at its base and almost an inch tall with a razor sharp edge.  

Sure, the flower it produced was pretty, but only when taken out of context to the actual plant itself.  The plant is a thorn infested monstrosity that grows with the intent to ward off people like me from removing it from its home.

I won the battle over the rose bushes - I have the battle scars to prove it.  What battle scars do you have from ending the bad habits you quit?  Is your life better for having quit those habits?

This week may I suggest you identify a bad habit or two that you have and start the painful process of removing it from your daily routine.  I know it won’t be easy, and yes I’m confident you’ll get pricked a couple times along the way making it painful.  The results will be worth it, I know that to be true.

I’ll tell you what - I’m all in on this process this week also - hold me accountable just like I’m asking you to be accountable.  Removing 1 bad habit from our lives opens up space for a new habit that adds value to your life, and that I think is a great trade off.

Wouldn’t you agree?

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Stop Being So Busy

This one may hit a little bit close to home.  Are you one of those people who is always busy with something that in reality amounts to nothing?  I can almost see you shaking your head in disapproval and dissension but stick with me for a moment.

I still have an e-mail my best friend of almost 30-years sent me years ago about being busy.  I won’t bore you with all the details, the point of the e-mail was simply this, we make time for things that we think are important.  In other words, if we don’t see value to what it is we are being asked or invited to do, our knee jerk response is to state that we are busy.

May I propose that it is bigger than that though?  May I suggest that in all of our busyness real or otherwise we end up missing out on opportunities that actually bring value to our lives.

“I’m so busy...”

Yeah, but are you really.  I recently was engaged with a group of guys who do graphic design work, they were helping me out on a few final details on the book I recently finished.  During our time working together we started discussing work hours with them collectively complaining as to how many hours a week they had to work.  I questioned them as to why they worked so many hours with the intent of drilling down as to whether they actually had that much work that demanded they put in as many hours as they did, or did they simply fill the time they worked with the work they had to complete.

Perhaps it’s a paradox, but allow me some leeway here.  There are days where my workload dictates that I work 8, 10 perhaps even 12 hours while other days the workload is such that I can be done in 3-4 hours.  The reality is, I could probably stretch those 3-4 hours to fill 8 hours that defines a “normal” workday, but in doing so I miss out on other opportunities.  The fact is, when work demands a 12 hour work day, I roll up my sleeves and get what needs to get done, done.

It isn’t filler meant to ride out a clock - quite the contrary.  In teaching my self not to be busy just for the sake of being busy, when work demands more I commit more time to it and my schedule reflects that.  Make no mistake, I love 12 hour days - but I love the 4-5 hours days even more.  Those are the days that afford me the opportunity to seek new challenges.

When I was 21 I took a job doing sales for a guy who loved the 9-5 grind of business.  The atmosphere of the company demanded you be on the phone from the time you clocked in until the clock struck 5 o’clock.  This grind went on each and everyday, despite the fact that by about 3 on Fridays most of my clients who happened to be on the East Coast while I was on the West Coast had long since gone home for the weekend.  

Voicemails would be left that I knew wouldn’t be heard until the following Monday, but hey, at least I looked busy.  

Do you see where I am going with this?  I sure looked busy, but I wasn’t productive.

Now, I’m going to hit you with one final thought as I wrap up this post and offer this nugget of fun - I wasn’t able to post today’s Monday Morning Minute until well after 6 this evening because, wait for it...  I was busy this morning!

But that busy was profitable, productive and intentional.  In other words, I wasn’t busy simply for the sake of being busy.

My encouragement to you this week is simply this, evaluate how you treat your time and identify some areas where you may be busy just for the sake of being busy.  Challenge yourself to find something intentional to fill that time in place of being busy - I think you will be quite pleased with the outcome.

Go forth and be busy no more!

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